Hawaii is a destination of dreams, blending extraordinary natural beauty with rich culture and a sense of history that is both inviting and complex. For us at Beat of Hawaii, that has always been the case, and it’s one of the reasons we have been full-time Kauai residents for decades. And we know too it’s one of the reasons many of you return.
The relationship between residents and guests has become a topic of discussion ever since Covid. Respectful travel is now an expectation and a way to ensure everyone experiences Hawaii’s best. And that also includes residents being respectful of visitors who are doing their best to travel responsibly.
Focusing on Hawaii’s culture, people, and natural environment can help us all experience the true essence of being here.
A deeper connection with residents creates meaningful conversations.
A common thread in visitor comments is the idea of being respectful guests. Long-time travelers and residents alike emphasize that Hawaii is not just another destination. The islands hold deep cultural significance, and recognizing this enhances the relationship between visitors and those of who who live here.
One resident, Bob S., summed it up well: “Hawaiians are proud and unique people. When you are a guest in someone else’s home, you abide by their rules and respect their property.” This simple principle is a good starting point for any visitor hoping to experience Hawaii through the eyes of its people.
To engage with residents, look online for what’s happening during your stay and find things that interest you. For starters, you could attend a commemorative event, participate in a beach clean-up day, attend a Bon Dance in summer, a local music festival, join a hiking group, or participate in a discussion group at the local library.
Sometimes, being a Hawaii visitor isn’t easy.
Recently, on Facebook, a visitor posted a photo taken at the famous Lumahai Beach on Kauai. The sign is not visitor-friendly, asking “tourists” to stay off a public beach. As long-time residents of Hawaii and Caucasians, we are sometimes looked upon as vacationing on Kauai, too, and have been told to stay off public land. We can say here that the problem is very isolated and not something you’ll encounter frequently. But at the same time, it speaks to tensions that can occur.
Immersing yourself in island culture.
Visitors have shared their appreciation for authentic experiences with Hawaiian culture. A frequent theme is the difference between superficial activities and engaging deeply with the local way of life.
Jan G., a frequent visitor, observed: “It’s the visitor’s loss if they don’t recognize the rich culture around them.”
Whether learning traditional arts, exploring historical sites, or attending a local event, embracing Hawaiian culture can lead to a much more fulfilling experience beyond the beaches and resorts.
Caring for the land and ocean.
Hawaii’s natural beauty is one of its greatest draws, but it is also fragile. Many comments on Beat of Hawaii emphasize the importance of respecting signs and staying mindful of the environment. Ignoring warnings can lead to dangerous situations and harm to the land and wildlife.
Mike J., a visitor, shared a thoughtful reminder: “If I see a sign that says KAPU, I will not pass. Hawaii is not Disneyland. Assuming that you can go wherever you like can be fatal.”
This serves as a reminder that Hawaii’s landscapes should be appreciated with care, not exploited for thrill-seeking.
The same goes for ocean safety. The waters surrounding Hawaii are as unpredictable as they are stunning. Bob S., a resident, emphasized this: “Never, ever turn your back on the ocean.” Respecting the power of the ocean is key to a safe and enjoyable visit.
Kindness goes a long way.
In the wake of the pandemic, some tensions rose between residents and visitors as travelers returned to the islands in large numbers. This is where kindness and empathy truly need to be the rule.
Thao, a Hawaii native who moved away but returned for a visit, reflected on the experience: “I just wish, if you are planning to visit Hawaii, be kind. Hawaii is a place for aloha (love). Learn the culture. Talk to the locals kindly, and please stop yelling at them.”
A simple gesture of kindness can go a long way in maintaining the Spirit of Aloha.
Supporting local businesses.
Another way to leave a positive impact is by supporting local businesses. Many visitors have found that dining at small eateries, shopping at farmers’ markets, and booking locally run tours enrich their experience while strengthening the local economy.
Pam S., a regular visitor to Kauai, shared: “Whenever I’m on Kauai, I feel like I belong there. I would never think to disrespect the land, the ocean, or the people.”
Supporting small businesses and contributing to the local community makes your travel experience more meaningful for all.
Preserving the magic of Hawaii.
As Hawaii faces the ongoing pressures of over-tourism, the need to balance visitor enjoyment with local preservation efforts has become more apparent. Limited access to popular spots like Haena State Park on Kauai ensures the islands’ natural beauty remains intact for generations to come.
Barbara M., a visitor, recognized this shift: “As Kauai has become more of a destination and visitors haven’t malama ‘aina (cared for the land), it was inevitable.”
While these restrictions may seem inconvenient, they protect Hawaii’s most cherished sites.
Embracing the spirit of Aloha.
At its core, traveling in harmony with Hawaii means embracing the spirit of aloha. This is more than just a greeting—it represents love, respect, and empathy for the land and its people. Jon D., a regular visitor, said it best: “You should respect where you travel as a visitor even more than at home.”
By following these principles, visitors can enjoy a truly unforgettable experience in Hawaii while ensuring that future generations can continue enjoying the island’s unique beauty and culture.
Traveling with aloha is not just the right thing to do—it’s the best way to experience the magic of Hawaii.
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My husband and were married on the big island of Hawaii many years ago and since then we have visited various Hawaii islands many times and love our vists every time. Respect and kindness go a long way wherever one is, however some think that they do have to be respectful of anyone or any thing and this appears to be on the rise. I do wish all of us could and should learn to be courteous. I have witnessed discouteousness also in other parts of the world, I am a guest in that town, city, state or country and I have to say that we in this country have forgotten some of these. Courteousness goes a ong way
Aloha Rob and Jeff. Thanks for providing your travel insight. I have a couple of questions that I haven’t seen posted and am hoping you or someone can answer them.
1) I’m a senior woman who would like someone to hike with me on easy to moderate trails while I’m on island mid- to late-November. I’ve contacted the Sierra Club, but they don’t have any scheduled hikes. I also posted on several Kauai hiking groups on FB but haven’t received a reply. Do you know of any guided hikes that I might be able to join? Maha’ulepu Trail is on my bucket list.
2) Has the road to Polihale been repaired recently? We haven’t been there in a couple of years, but on our last trip to Polihale we were lucky to not fall into a pothole never to be seen again.
Mahalo and blessings always.
Hi Pam.
Have you tried meetup.com? We have no personal familiarity with it. Let us know how your kauai hiking hunt goes. And have a great trip!
Aloha.
Golly.
My wife (Native descent) and I live in a heavily touristed state with a strong indigenous presence where several cultures have both mixed and clashed for hundreds of years. Some people with long ties to the area resent tourists and people from elsewhere who come to live. It isn’t efficient or very well organized here and political power is controlled by one side. Crime and poverty are high, but the natural beauty, history and culture keep people coming.
So on our many trips to Hawaii, we’ve always kind of related to what we’ve found – feels similar to our home. Most kamaʻāina we’ve encountered have been nice – some really great. Yeah, some strike us as unjustifiably resentful, but that’s not the norm.
But we’re concerned with the number of posts/articles suggesting that malihini are unwanted and even disrespectful by default. We have reservations to return in December, but maybe it’s time to consider Tahiti instead.
Tommy 505, it must be with a heavy heart that you’re thinking about Tahiti taking the place of Hawaii, at least for your next trip. I, too, have made a very conscious choice recently to pull out of the State where I was Born and partly grew up in, even selling the Family Home which was in the Family for 4 years short of 100. Connecticut has been totally transformed from a great place to live and raise a family by mostly New York Ultra Liberals that have been controlling the State. I do know, somewhat, of how you feel. Don’t ever give up your heritage, your family, all of you have strong tie to the community. Change takes time, work for it, Change Voters Minds and Elect Good Leadership. In Hawaii it’s possible, unfortunately Connecticut 😕 isn’t. God Bless You and Guide You Always 🙏
when ever I travel to hawaii I travel pono. my 46th trip for may day festivities is next year. I have the utmost respect for the hawaiian people, the aina, and its culture. the hawaiian people have always embraced me as one of their own which i truly appreciate. the island of oahu is “my home ” and I have many ohana there who know I treat their island home with respect. i consider it a priviledge to partake in hawaii’s culture !
Being a respectful guest is good advice at any destination, & we go to lengths to be respectful guests.
Technically Hawaii is part of the USA but being an ugly American is as unwelcome & inappropriate there as it would be in Mexico, France, Mongolia or anywhere else.
Where is the Treaty saying that we are american??? There is no Treaty!!! So Hawaii has been Illegally Occupied By The American Government !!!
No disrespect intended, but notwithstanding the nativist sentiments Hawaii is a US state & therefore American.
There is no treaty but there is a law, the Hawaii Admission Act (PL 86-3), & the statehood vote was 93% in favor of admission.
I’ve enjoyed visiting Hawaii twice a year for a couple decades now. The culture, kind, friendly people and beautiful tropical setting has made it my favorite place to visit. I’ve thought of moving here if I could afford it. I’m on Maui right now and at a parking lot by a public beach, my rental car has been damaged, 2 days in a row! Coincidence? As a tourist in a rental car, it saddens me to think that I’m possibly being targeted.
It makes me sad to read these comments, despite the fact that some visitors say they still find aloha here. Yes Jack, we are the 50th state. If you visit Hawai’i from another state, you are not charged for merely entering the state. But federal, state, and county park entrance is a different matter. Most state parks charge admission across the United States. Visitors take a toll on park resources.
There will always be a local jerk or two, who may make a visitor feel unwelcome. But as a 20 year Maui resident (who spent 2 wonderful childhood years here), I have noticed that most visitors, particularly repeat ones, care about Hawai’ian culture and try to be respectful of local traditions. Is it not our kuleana (responsibility) to teach visitors this is not Disneyland, the ocean is dangerous, and the land is sacred? And aloha is a special human glue? Put on some slack key and dance! And where are the pupus?
In the beginning of the article I almost pulled out the incense and began praying like a Buddhist. I’m glad that I didn’t and continued reading. Excellent Article BOH, Thanks Guys! In a time where Respect of any kind, including of Oneself, is at an all time decline depending upon demographics, this is relevant. It’s my fervent hope that this article is republished in a Hawaiian Vacation Travel Booklet. Many people need to read and comprehend what it means.
Polls have suggested that 90% of Hawaii’s residents (including Hawaiians) would not choose to leave the U.S. They have too much to lose, and most are fine people who had unfamiliar mainland ideals forced upon them.
The “squeaky wheel” is the 10% who somehow believe that they would become wealthy royalty in a reconstituted Hawaiian Empire.
I have gently pointed to Tonga as an example of what Hawaii might be without the U.S., and the fact that Tongans move here in droves to get away from poverty. Most Hawaiians are awesome people who have been reduced to low-income survivors by cultural differences between them and the outside world.
All sides need to demonstrate respect towards each other, and fortunately, most do exactly that.
All these suggestions are valid for visiting any location, not just Hawaii. It all comes down to being respectful, considerate and polite and realizing we’re a guest in someone else’s home. Hawaii isn’t unique in this regard.
Why don’t travelers research a destination before taking a trip? I can’t understand going to a place like Hawaii and not at least reading about its rich and unique history.
People are drawn to destinations by Advertising and Hype put forth by the HTA, why don’t They add some Useful Facts in it? It would Help!
>> A deeper connection with residents creates meaningful conversations.
The only tourist “deeper connection” that most residents are interested in is this one: money.
>> A common thread in visitor comments is the idea of being respectful guests. Long-time travelers and residents alike emphasize that Hawaii is not just another destination.
But Hawaii is indeed “just another” state. Under the United States Constitution, Article IV, Section 2, Clause 1, “The Citizens of each State shall be entitled to all Privileges and Immunities of Citizens in the several States.”
No American citizen needs to “bend the knee” or pay a fee to enter any of the fifty states. And if Hawaiians want it that way, by all means, withdraw from the Union. Take your chances with a rapacious China CCP who is landgrabbing everywhere, with force. Go and see how “respectful” the Chinese National People’s Congress will be. Go for it.
Jack, you’re on the money! Without the Bailouts of Federal Money where would Hawaii be? Without shipments from the mainland what would Hawaiians have? Yes, the CCP would be there, deep water ports would be filled with Chinese Warships, Hawaii would be under their Control. If Hawaii really wants to leave, its able to. The question remains: will the US want it back?
There have been posts about lack of ‘Aloha spirit’ by Hawaiian residents from visitors posting on this blog. We – who have been visiting Hawaii for over 30 years, and just returned from a 3+ weeks stay on Kauai vehemently disagree with those statements!
Our stay was most enjoyable and filled with Aloha spirit during our encounters with Kauai residents. We have stayed at Kalanipu’u during our trips for the past 8 years. The front desk staff, the concierge, assistance if any special need arises has always be fabulous and was again this trip. Our encounters with staff at businesses (e.g. The Koa Store, etc.) were extremely cordial and friendly. Interactions we had with servers etc. at restaurants could not have been better. My wife has some disabilities, and everyone was most considerate and helpful of her.
The Aloha Spirit is alive and well in Kauai. We’ll be back!! Be sure you bring ‘Aloha’ with you if you visit
We to go guys. Headline photo of a BS sign left by someone that doesn’t deserve to be quoted.
This is Not the prevailing feeling of the vast majority of the population of the islands. And you know it!
I wonder if the person who made that sign receives federal/state aid??
Aloha.
Is is disheartening to hear of those visitors who have commented about the lack of respect shown them by local residents. I have resided in Kauai for 40 blessed years and, like most I know, give and get respect. Sure, there are some who mistakenly blame tourists for their woes and have attitude, and other recent arrivals both rich and poor now living here, who have yet to give and get aloha. We host guests, many repeaters, on our farm and people, even those with certain apprehensions, leave with a smile and a healthy dose of aloha. I certainly hope that those who feel aggrieved can look past the bad apples and find the warm aloha that exudes from Kauai.
Mahalo nui loa, e komo mai,
Bruce F
Bruce, I believe that sometimes no matter how nice you are, someone will eventually try to ruin it. To allow that to happen, you are bringing yourself to their level. Never allow that to happen. The current state of affairs in Hawaii is likened to the harbinger of death to tourists. The Governments, State, City, Local, have conspired to keep the average people from wanting to come, even if they can afford it. The few actual voices only compound the message and hurt felt.
Supporting local artisans is highly encouraged. They operate from a unique perspective and offer items which cannot be found elsewhere and serve as a great memento of your trip.
Paintings, prints, personalized painting t-shirts, jewelry, and much more. Polished kukui nut leis are great but sea bean leis and sunrise shell jewelry are extra special and unique.
My wife and I have been visiting the islands for over 20 years. We have always made it a practice to enjoy local farmers markets, local crafts and historical places. I believe some of the root causes of the problems reside with your companies, resorts and corporate America. Zip lines, 4 wheel drive tours, Hollywood Luau’s are not what Hawaii is about. These have taken away from the true Aloha spirit.
Good day~ Hawaii should be not different then visting elsewhere. Respect the locals, thier culture and dive into learing and experiencing what is unique to what drew you there. As Mark Twain said, “Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness.”
Mahalo
Aloha!
We just returned to the mainland from our annual trip to Kauai (15 years and counting). We try to be mindful of the Aina and moʻomeheu. We also make it a point to smile and greet everyone we meet. So far, and we may either be lucky or in the minority, we have not experienced any hostility.
Craig, is it possible that only Kauai for the most part that every visitor seems to have that experience. I’m glad to hear that Aloha is alive, well, and untainted, at least there. Now if the disgruntled in other Counties of Hawaii would emulate Kauai, Hawaii would be uniformly a Loving place to visit.
I have always respected the Hawaiian Culture and have enjoyed going to events and shows to support that. That is one of the reasons my Husband and I visited the Islands so often. From the Orchid farms to Pineapple groves to Hawaiian Luaus, we liked supporting and learning about the beautiful and sacred Hawaiian customs. We also loved all the beautiful places (Road to Hana, trips to the volcanos, etc) supporting the many tour groups who make a living taking tourists to these wonderful places. We have spent a lot of money over the years supporting small businesses, from buying souvenirs to eating in family owned restaurants over choosing the big stores and restaurants . We no longer feel that we are welcome on the Islands. The people who live there also need to respect the fact that the tourists spend a large amount of money to visit and provide them with tourist dollars. We have crossed the Islands off of our vacation plans for good now. We go where we’re welcomed.
We have always felt welcomed. Have been going to Hawaii for close to40 years. We went last fall and showed respect to those mourning. Not asking questions, but listening when people volunteered information, attended a memorial service on All Souls day, volunteered with three different organizations. We showed respect and were treated with resoect.
Aloha missing – A friend just yesterday pointed out that on her last trip, there was no Hawaiian music playing most anywhere. The entertainer near a restaurant was playing country music, no piped in Hawaiian music for the timeshare presentation even. The words ‘Aloha and Mahalo’ are missing, especially Mahalo – I haven’t heard that in the last several trips (thank you, yes, but Mahalo always made it special). Sometimes we like the simple things
So very true with regard to Hawaiian music and the Hawaiian language. Even on Kauai, over the past few years it’s hard to hear traditional Hawaiian music in public establishments. All you hear is reggae and hip-hop. This is Hawaii, not Jamaica! Same goes for the Hawaiian language. It’s a beautiful language so let’s hear more of it!
Mahalo Nui, and Aloha to all.
Where was she visiting?
Our Hawaii trip was on Oahu, & we encountered both Hawaiian folk music & the Hawaiian language all over the island.
We have been very fortunate to have met some Awesome people, simply walking the street around where we stay, with relatives. Their Aloha Spirit was felt quite warmly, ours was reciprocated. It’s unfortunate that there are some that choose ignorance over Aloha. Those few that do seem to spoil it for far too many, directly or through reports of such. Oahu, Gathering Place, has been tainted by those interactions, however, they are Not the Only Ones to Blame. Blame for this is spread out, begin with Governor Green, his Administration, some of the Legislature, County, Local, and Municipal Governments alike, they should shoulder much of the Blame. The Hotel Owners along with the Resort Owners, they Control much of the happenings. There’s plenty of Blame, why not fix the problem and live peacefully? It’s All just a cheap tool for them to steer people from Asking Too Many Questions of Them! Your time should be better used Asking, Demanding, to know where your new housing is!
On Maui, tourists were usually blamed for rubbish left on the beaches. Then Covid came along with no more tourists, and the problem didn’t get better, it got worse.
This exemplified what many of us assumed all along. It’s mostly locals leaving the trash and beer bottles behind. Tourists are typically respectful of the land.
Absolutely correct. There were even articles written at the time, during the pandemic closure, of parking lots being trashed, restrooms smashed and vandalized — and zero tourists to blame due to stringent lockdowns. Here’s a quote from Kauai’s mayor from another article:
“Kauai Mayor Kawakami has become famous in Hawaii and even on the mainland for his Facebook videos titled ‘Stay at home Kauai,’ describing his activities during the pandemic.
“But he says he’s too embarrassed to make a video highlighting the terrible behavior at Kauai parks like Polihale.
“I am too ashamed. This is not the way we are,” Kawakami said. “I really don’t want people to see it. We are better than this.”
source: “Why Are People Trashing State Parks? This time the destruction and overuse of Hawaii’s outdoor treasures can’t be blamed on tourists.”
I’d also like to add that I don’t know of any tourists who’ve left broken appliances or burned out vehicles along the roads in Maui.
I constantly hear “Be a respectful visitor.”
Respect is a two way street. Its difficult to respect people who attempt to privatize public beaches, erect Kapu signs just because they don’t want you to go down their public road, or are generally disrespectful to visitors.
Its important to remember that respect is earned, not given.
My Wife and I were visiting Oahu quite regularly, 8 times in 11 years. We stay with generous relatives who open their home and lives, they enjoy our company. We have been very hesitant to return. Oahu has changed, not for the better. Charging for Beach Access, even if it’s parking, and making reservations for certain places that were first come, first serve so to speak, is totally absurd. Blaming Tourists for what is Obviously a Resident Problem, Trash on the beach, not enough prime parking for the spoiled, overcrowded beaches (20 people) and probably moving the sand as we walk! State Parks in most places Don’t Charge, on the Mainland. I admit that Some Do charge Outrageously for out of State visitors. National Parks, if Some Do it’s a mere pittence. Oahu claims not to be a Disney Park, Disney charges for the Experience, Oahu Does Too! Will we be back, probably one day. We were married there and maybe celebrate another Anniversary there, we shall see.